“You need to have as much discretion to give advice as docility to receive them.” François de la Rochefoucauld (1613-1680) French writer.

All, for better or worse, we are able to communicate in the sense that we can engage in conversation and convey an idea (and, sometimes, to receive). But that does not mean that we are communicating with strength, grace and elegent. In fact, often the communication does not lead to anything more than that: pure exchange of information rather than building healthy relationships and enriching.

Over the years I learned that OTL is much simpler than it seems. He just needs to develop a series of simple habits, which unfortunately often conspicuous by their absence.

It is discreet, do not count your life. Obviously, when there is a relationship of trust with the other person, nothing prevents you talk about your personal things. It may even be desirable. But during the first contacts, especially the former, you should not. If someone pulls out in conversation the dentist is out of politeness or to hang out, not because you are interested in your life. Nobody will care what you say about your grandmother, or how badly they treat you at work. Breaking the unwritten rule that the other person will ignore you immediately.

Genuinely listening. It is assumed that the other person is telling you something that matters, so your obligation is to listen with attention and your interest in what he says in a genuine way. Many times all we need is to listen to us. In fact, what attracts people is not so much what you have to say, but how you listen to what they say. It usually happens that the person ends up feeling more confident speaking and knows the listener.

Do not give advice. Especially if no one has asked. Even if you feel tempted to do so, bite your tongue. Even when I asked for advice, be cautious. In counseling almost always make mistakes and injustices. Each person is a world, and rarely have all the evidence for our wonderful advice is 100% effective. What applies to you does not necessarily apply to others. You can try to steer if they ask, but always taking it very clear that it is the responsibility of each find their way.

Avoid rumors and gossip. There is no faster way to lose credibility and will no longer trust you to criticize others. As a rule I try not to talk about anybody who is not present, except to make a compliment. If your office partner is pregnant, it is up to it, nothing more than to her, tell the other fellow. As tempting as it is, you should not talk about things you do not incumbent.

Accept gifts and compliments readily. It is common to declare that it does deserve a present or a compliment (sometimes with false modesty), but it does not stop being rude. He thinks that the other person has taken great interest and excitement about it, and “reject” detracts from that effort. If someone gives you something or a compliment, thankful heart. It is proven that there is more pleasure in giving than receiving, so if you are a grateful person, you will be much more attractive to others.

Do not try to change others. Usually, it’s a waste of time. Instead of using energy and time to make change another person, think if it bothers you is also a feature of your character that you hate, and therefore only see in others. Better would be to devote the energy to work the defect yourself. In any case, the most we can hope for is to be a model for others, and whoever would take it, take it.

Do you know other secrets to keep enriching personal relationships? Leave your ideas in a comment.

Earn money as a writer! – this is sentence on all freelancer websites…

Today not only the traditional publishers can pay for your work. In traditional publishing, if you have patience and send your manuscripts, with another dose of patience must wait up to two months to say no with silence. It’s painful.We also see the option of e-book released for free, happy again plastered with talent patience to sell to your blog …

This site with the bizarre name-’promises you earn money by writing summaries or analysis of your favorite book, newspaper, web or film. You get paid for articles written about what’s caught your attention.

On the other side, Writers on request are also called black literary or ghost writer. They rewrite texts or write for others without name and personality.

So, do you think that real writer should have his/her own name on all posts and to write from the heart ?

Faced with the shortage “structural” employment opportunities, has emerged the need to create one’s own work and thus find an economically profitable and sustainable over time.

This trend is in constant growth: high rates of unemployment, underemployment, employment contracts perverse and violence in many companies to their employees makes one think to seek other alternatives for personal development.

By this I mean that large numbers of people, many of them from state or private companies with no previous experience, training or inclination for independent activity, are forced to think of working on their own. A challenge is not for everyone.

Let me enumerate some ideas put forward to defend what is called “own business”, “independent work”, “own business”, “microenterprise”, etc..

* Power to be your own boss
* Power, independence, freedom, self -
* Owning what you do and who have not reported
* Develop ideas and creativity
* Generate revenue and earnings growth that one can reap by itself
* Administer and manage a personal enterprise
* Do what you want.
* Etc, etc..

These assumptions correspond to a greater or lesser extent some idealization read “lone hero” that we all harbor a little place in the heart. We like to think by making them face the adversities faced with own resources. I think those who choose this path have a predilection for these mythic images. It is true that the “autonomous” or “independent” always existed. The companies owe their birth to a hero with these features: a visionary, a dreamer who ran away to realize what he perceived as “their” business or opportunity.

Currently, the myth still exists and has always the same followers of the intuition alone, smell and courage must be complemented by many other qualities and requirements planned management, needs assessment, market potential and marketing, business plans, profitability , costs, feasibility and resources, etc..

That is, dreams, myths and legends must be kneaded with accounts, market analysis and strategic planning.

Speaking pragmatically:

* 1) Be your own boss means being willing to work 12 hours or more per day
* 2) Power and independence means making decisions and choosing options
* 3) Owning means to address all risks and responsibilities for the operation of the business
* 4) Creativity is having the ingenuity to get around obstacles and find viable alternatives at each stage of the business or activity
* 5) Generate revenue and profit is economically support themselves and learn about costs, cash flow and profitability.
* 6) Administer and manage the company is careful to establish an organization, know how to delegate, plan objectives, set priorities and importances and always be open to change head the march if necessary.
* 7) Doing what you really want to do what is most suitable for business success and be willing to revise one’s ideas, seek advice and learn, learn and learn.

What happens to those who come from a job that has ended, with those unwilling to follow where they have, those who can not find another job, as those who never worked and now must do?

In this case the transformation of resources on a personal level is greater still: passing a field of action with fixed rules, hierarchies, roles, functions and responsibilities bounded to enter fully functioning organization with an agenda and self-administered at your own risk.

I mention it on the agenda because there is a noticeable difference in the experience of time management and from being without fixed occupation and pre-set schedule: on measurement and no runs while meaningless, the future is blurred.

Leaving aside the differences between those from the loss of employment and those who want to start with a self-managed activity, the similarities go. This group of people must transform their way of life substantially and face a new project. This project requires that you take it seriously which means:
Proactive attitude (positive attitude and action)

The positive attitude is essential as it will face challenges, new situations and obstacles steadily. It is possible that surrounding the entrepreneur trying to alert you to overcome the difficulties and disadvantages of doing something only in a context of weak incentives and a recessionary economy. With the best intentions will want to avoid disappointment and discourage their projects.

If it is a stronger woman this is and what to say even if it is the first time that long into the ring. For this, he does not possess a certain amount of energy of action, output and optimism, quickly succumb to the recommendations of best to stay as is.
Decision to do what one intends and perseverance

Being convinced of what they want to do will decide to “take” the appropriate way to carry it out. This decision must be strong to be able to persevere without perseverance or obsecación becomes useless tosudez. To persevere is to continue the efforts and seek appropriate ways and is different from insisting on what is not.
Self-discipline and organization to develop an activity without heads

Who develops an autonomous activity is the task of taking over all facets that are part of the activity. Make your own hours of work, place and manner of carrying out daily tasks and organize your schedule gun steadily and tirelessly each and every one of the aspects related to your business. Therefore learn to develop routines and methods that help to simplify and save effort. You will not have to but he blames that is responsible to himself and to their partners, suppliers, customers and peers.
Consensus and support from close relatives (they will be affected or will be involved somehow in the change)

A microenterprise is usually started in craft and personnel. Use existing resources within the family (who often plays a key role). It is very unusual for something new starts from home or require assistance or cooperation of others nearby (children, spouse, friends, etc).

For this very reason it is crucial to understand what it will mean the new activity and how it will affect the best common areas, phone, work schedules, time devoted to it, the energy and attention it demands. If there is no understanding and support, will become much more difficult path.

* Knowledge of one’s own strengths and weaknesses (in a systematic way and not “roughly”)
* Survey’s own experiences and knowledge to make better use of what has
* Inventory of material and financial resources

Each and every one of these aspects should be duly evaluated and recognized. Who best knows itself and its possibilities, better use of their resources, both in regard to knowledge, work experience, management styles, skills, difficulties or disadvantages that has capital to account, contributions, etc.

What will be our way of reaching consumers is another important aspect. Which means we use to raise awareness of the service or product you have, what form or style more appropriate for the segment we will discuss if we promotions, gifts, home deliveries, personalized items, wholesale sales, special discounts, distribution logistics merchandise, etc..
Setting clear objectives, measurable and time to develop in the short term, medium term and long term

This is also part of strategic planning: first know where we are, what our current situation and secondly where we want to, what we intend and in between, do we need to do to achieve the proposed objectives. Nothing more, nothing less to look not only time but also goals that can be assessed in stages or processes or achievements to be measured in any concrete way (to get as many new customers, sell many items, arrive at new year with such a partner, and so on. etc.).