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Positive attitude, the key to happiness
The International Index of Happiness or Happy Planet Index, reflects the appreciation of being on the planet and at the same time, it exposes a curious paradox: that the happiest countries are not necessarily the richest.
Argentina, despite the crisis, and mosquito bites, is not as bad as many believe. It ranks 47th in the ranking of happiness in the world, above countries like Switzerland or idealized United States.
It appears that happiness does not cost us as much as we thought. At the top of the list are the islands of Vanuatu (Pacific), followed closely by Colombia and then Costa Rica, while the United States appears far away in the place 150 on a total of 178 and the Swiss are at 65.
The index measures the perception of welfare, both social and individual, associated with eco-efficiency and life expectancy in each country. While it is the exact levels of happiness, it does show the degree to which each country approaches a basic set of requirements that people need to be happy.
According to Ignacio Trujillo, a writer specializing in issues related to the way we live and interact, the Argentines have learned to be happy by dint of suffering. “They can come play yard, global financial crisis, corrupt politicians, etc., but we seem increasingly determined to give priority to enjoy the small pleasures of everyday life.”
Can you learn to be happy?
“All we asked ourselves whether we are happy to remain as we are, whether we like the work we do if our relationship is full, if the person is what we imagined when we were teenagers. The race begins with happiness and life is endless, from children we do everything possible to be loved by mom and dad, teen invent anything to be accepted by our group membership, when we know the first love, we try keep regardless … But as we become adults, the sense of wonder begins to threaten and, if we are not careful with it also jeopardized the passion and the ability to play and enjoy them, “says Trujillo.
But how do those who are connected with great optimism, with the desire to grow and learn and the passion for living? “What they all have in common is a positive attitude,” says Trujillo, “there is no formula, a spa, which all attend, a position kamasutra, or a favorable economic situation for all of them, there is nothing outside it resolved . “
According to the specialist, a good way to change attitudes is watching people react to the same event differently from ours, which is not the only or the true and, therefore, possible to modify.
10 ideas to grow with the crisis
For months we have been hearing about the crisis and is a good opportunity to take what happens outside as a reflection of what happens to us individually: when we can take the crisis (internal or external) as opportunities rather than threats, we will have greater likely to grow.
Here are some ideas to learn to make seemingly difficult external stimuli and challenges to be better:
1) Change in attitude. A good way is to look to different people who take the same act in a manner opposite or other than their own (which is not the only or the true and therefore, possible to modify).
2) S.O.S. Have the courage and humility to ask for help when there is a way different vision. Until you can be encouraged to see the crisis differently, the conclusions will always be the same, to see with new eyes is necessary to ask for help from those who have the ability to provide it.
3) Practice, practice, practice. To grow with the crisis (both external and internal) need to practice new attitudes held in time. A good way to start is to practice these ideas for at least six months.
4) Find examples. There are always people around us who already encouraged to take the step that costs us much concrete. They can inspire us, just a matter of starting to look around.
5) Laughing at yourself. Must be encouraged to set aside the ego that always complains and feels offended and start to laugh at one’s own stupidity.
6) Do not expect magic formulas from the outside. We must make the following reflection: “What is my share of responsibility for having got here?”. If I am not responsible for my actions I can never leave my personal crisis as only we can change that of which we take.
7) Search rewarding contexts. To leave an area of crisis, must begin by the external environment. What characterizes a context? The physical environment, conversations, contact with nature, among other things. If the contexts in which they live are not the ones I like what I hope to create new ones?.
Connect with your feelings. Both sports activities such as arts connect us with the world of sensations. And when we’re on the senses, we are no longer in the head (which is what keeps us in crisis).
9) to act now. This involves deciding today with concrete actions I will start a growth path. As Goethe said: ‘Whatever you can do or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic. Begin it now. “
10) Read this article and break it! If after reading these ideas, are cut and pasted into the refrigerator, the most important thing is missing: pleasure to do. All this is to keep this in mind, then it’s like to go dancing: to enjoy dancing regardless of counting steps but enjoy.
Catharsis reactive and RFI (reactive factor index)
References
Abuse Education
Catharsis reactive
Therapeutic communication
Conflict Management
Social Responsibility
Corporate Governance
December 2003: A Japanese citizen decides to take hostage for several hours his boss at the office of a busy Tokyo business building. The subject once wielded as a cause of action back wages and frequent deception which he suffered by the organization, decided to self immolate himself, killing himself and his superior.
January 2004: An administrator of an estate in the municipality of Cota – Colombia. Decides to end the life of his boss giving him a round of shots and then supply a lethal dose of machetes. The man waited at the scene of crime to be arrested by the police whose arrival wielded superior abuse as the reason the event.
These are just two cases that world public opinion sees daily in the media and where the accumulated tensions lead people to violent acts in organizations either to themselves or others.
As that took place from 2005, the international news were filled with self-immolations, suicide attacks, hostage taking and other signs of neurosis of terrorism.
And is that while one part of the world calls for a high standard of living and wealth is centered in a few hands or countries, the rest of the world looks on with growing anxiety as their levels of poverty and impoverishment.
This inequality generates tensions that hinder the work of the corporate world by creating unstable economies and low levels of consumption.
THINKING REAGENT, FEAR, and catharsis
The stress of the modern world has generated certain psychological tendencies urban triggered either by the pressures of the free market or the dramatic growth of poverty.
We see today the citizen subject to Darwinian paradigms where it is subjected to the law of the jungle. In this framework the human being uses its innermost survival instincts and chooses to desperate options.
However, such a trend seems to be responding to what we might call “reactive thinking” where the person shows their reality by way of reaction to it and no one is willing and ready.
It appears that reactive thinking is in the depths of the brain in so-called “reptilian brain” which keeps our animal instincts, reactions unsound. There is for example our survival instinct.
Some of the features of the reactive mind are:
Tendency not to find out and be out of options.
Feel vulnerable and defensive.
Seeks to establish justice from their point of view.
There is only one truth and he has.
You feel that if violent acts will not be heard.
Go to blame and punishment as the only ways to establish equilibrium.
Catharsis Reactive:
Catharsis Literally the word means “clean” comes from the Greek “catharsis” which means purification of the passions of the mind, its general definition states that a “shock of ideas, thoughts and repressed unconscious material, accompanied by an emotional response and emotional relief. “
In psychology it is considered a way to release tension and express emotions either reactively (instinctive and usually aggressive) or proactive, creative tensions when we express that we allow our development and personal achievement.
The term was revived in 1895 thanks to the works of Freud and Brauer, who used to refer to the therapeutic release of emotions that cause fear or anxiety.
For Collado Fernández [1] catharsis “is a liberating process of disturbing emotional tension through verbal expression or manifestation of the feelings in attitudes.”
It is related to repressed emotions bring to conscious, disruption and conflicting events. Thus the process of catharsis can occur in two ways, one where the stresses become another pressure and where tensions are released through language (verbalization), diluting, through the process of expression, the voltage generated on an emotional level . That is:
1.) Uncertainty ® anxiety / fear ® catharsis or uncertainty,
2.) Anxiety / fear ® release through communication and language.
Samples associated emotional catharsis is usually crying, tremors and feeling of not knowing what to do. Such emotions can be associated with the sense of achievement (catharsis proactive) as winning the Academy Award, a medal or a prize for sport or representative, and when we feel cornered and generate aggression to ourselves or to whom we surround. (Catharsis Reactive).
ATMOSPHERE AND CONDITIONS TO GENERATE REACTIVE Catharsis:
Among other situations that can generate reactive attitudes are presented:
Ø People exposed to heavy work.
Ø economic pressures.
Or pressures that affect their integrity.
Ø Long hours or excessive tiredness.
Or frustration.
Or feelings related to severe pain.
UNCERTAINTY, COMMUNICATION AND CHANGE
In the case of uncertainty, lack of information can generate feelings of threat and trigger defensive actions in the form of catharsis in which the person intends to take control of your environment and security.
According to the author Meryl Gellman in his paper “The ratio of trust” [2], “the uncertainty creates feelings of anxiety, inadequacy, jealousy, envy, uncertainty and fear, erodes our self-esteem and keeps us from achieving our goals , leaving us depressed and dissatisfied. “
An internal communication upset by two phenomena can occur in isolation:
1. That person has no space to communicate, or not allow him to communicate: In this case the person feels oppressed.
2. That the person is not taken into account as a subject receiving messages, which is not allowed to express themselves, or that our expression is not taken into account. In this case the person is excluded.
In every human being is the underlying need to be heard as a sign of its existence. Is a need to communicate, reflecting the need of the world, to verify that it exists and occupies a space in the social universe in which it operates.
It is some need to know that we exist to know ourselves or feel perceived by others. It is an innate need to express themselves, where ideas produce energy and that energy is released through communication and action. When that energy can not be released pressure and stress the individual.
The man is seriously limited when your communication is difficult, when you can not express to interact positively with their environment.
On the one hand, it is recalled that generates information to be deprived of catharsis as our survival instinct awakens to evoke the fear of the unknown and evoke feelings of threat and risk.
On the other, lying and other forms of dishonesty to deprive a person of truthful information, are also assumed as failures to respect, who are perceived (As noted in the document communication, an organizational point of view [3]) are taken as an insult to their intelligence and a violation of his trust.
The loss of information is taken as an exclusionary attitude against which the excluded assume an attitude of rejection and assume the position of marginalized. This resentment will eventually notorious and visible through internal expressions that reflect either disagreement or requiring showing friendly actions verbally or in sensitive cases by physical acts of strength.
WHAT TO SERVE AND WHAT DOES THE RFi
The Reactive Factor Factor Index or Index of reagent is not nothing but a measure of organizational climate that allows us to establish how much reagent is an environment and how willing are people linked to an organization to generate a process of conflict either group level or individual level.
This reactive attitudes measurement allows the organization to know or predict the reactions of the public with which to interact (community, employees, society, etc.) and serves as an indicator of good governance to be able to establish what time or why their actions genera
te a grievance and how dangerous it can be that grievance to the organization.
References
Schvarstein, Leonardo. Social intelligence organizations. Paidos.
Schwartz, Peter. When good companies behaving badly. Doubleday.
[1] Communication in organizations. Carlos Fernández Collado. Trillas. Mexico DF. 1991.
[2] The ratio of confidence. Meryl Gellman. Grijalbo. Madrid. 1992
[3] notice, an organizational standpoint. Ramos, Carlos. Trillas. 1991.
The art of not becoming ill
Among the many benefits of psychotherapy and the practice of Kundalini Yoga is give us remove the possibility of getting sick as we grow in key areas such as: Talking about your emotions, make decisions, find solutions, not live appearances, accepted , trust and live in bliss.
Currently the chaos, confusion and the threat reign. And every day becomes more essential to consciousness primarily to not get sick …. Find out here as.
I) talk about your feelings
Emotions and feelings that are hidden and suppressed end in illnesses as: gastritis, ulcer, lumbar pains in the spine.
Over time, the repression of the feelings degenerates to the cancer. So let’s get honest, confiding, sharing our intimacy, ours “secret”, our errors! … The dialogue, the speech, the word, are powerful remedies and an excellent therapy! Psychotherapy reiterates this over and over again in my course even I AutoCorrect format conducive face all the time about what has to be spoken, shouted that has to be shouted, mourn what you have to be crying.
II) Making Decisions
The undecided person remains in doubt, in anxiety, in anguish. Indecision accumulates problems, worries and aggressions. Human history is made of decisions. To decide is precisely to know to renounce, to know to lose advantages and values to win others. The undecided people are victims of nervous ailments, gastric and skin problems. Psychotherapy and Yoga mainly help us greatly to this by the great clarity of awareness they bring to our lives.
III) Search Solutions
Negative people do not get solutions and they enlarge problems. They prefer to complain, gossip, pessimism. Better to light a match to regret the darkness. A bee is small, but produces the sweetest thing there is. We are what we think. The negative thought generates negative energy that is transformed into illness. The more you practice Kundalini Yoga more negative balances your mind to make way for the mind balanced and wise.
IV) No Appearance Vivas
Who hides reality, pretends, is in pose, always wants to give the impression of being well, perfect show, good-natured, and so on. … Collects tons. A bronze statue with feet of clay. Nothing worse health than to live on appearances and facades. They are people with a lot of varnish and little root. Their destiny is the pharmacy, the hospital, the pain. In this Yoga there is no regular practitioners of this discipline we live in the Truth of our best I that is simple and humble.
V) Accept yourself
THE REJECTION of self, lack of self esteem, makes us alienate ourselves. Being yourself is the core of a healthy lifestyle. Those who do not accept themselves, become envious, jealous, imitators, competitive, destructive. OK, OK, be accepted and accept criticism is wisdom, good sense and therapy. When you play a wonderful source of light within each of us is impossible not to accept you and this, believe me! you do it with the constant practice of this wonderful discipline: Kundalini Yoga.
VI) Trust
Who do not trust, does not communicate, does not open, not related, does not create deep and stable relations, does not know to do true friendships. Without trust, no relationship. Distrust is a lack of faith in himself, others and God. Kundalini Yoga The increasingly open your consciousness to the great love that exists in all this way we become confident and wise.
VII) lives in that
The good humor, laughter, rest, joy, replenish health and bring long life. The happy person has the gift to brighten up the living environment. “Good humor saves us from the hands of the doctor.” Happiness is health and therapy. And finally to be in the Spirit, giving you the practice of Kundalini Yoga, leads us to happiness to be fine because if it be OK just because.
We complicate life so much
To be happy do not look for justification or permission.
We are constantly with many people who complain have complicated his life, who can not stand this situation, how to get out of it.
How also should not surprise us, that maybe ourselves for not being alert, awake, clearly defined what we want to achieve, in addition to self-knowledge, we find ourselves in situations where we believe we are complicated.
The fact that our journey through this plan with this form that lasts as long as we are with life is too short to complicárnoslas, enjoy it intensely.
There are precedents that point:
• 40 percent of concerns are things that never happen, devised by anxiety. Added to this is also that 30 percent is produced decisions, which can not be modified. What was done was done, we must deal with its results.
• A 12 percent have to do with criticism and comments. We must not let it catch you must handle it with ease, without letting the emotions complicated.
• A 10 percent are health concerns and mood they tend become worse with worry.
• The remaining 8 percent has to do with real problems to face.
To this must be added other aspects deserve consideration in relation to certain truths lying entangled us life, as we remember them practical psychology to know:
• What things do not go as I wish for is catastrophic. It is unwise because it creates thoughts like, “This is hopeless or I suck. We produce distress and anxiety, lowers self-esteem. Results in failure to address a difficulty with objectivity and a guarantee of success: the feeling from seeing the real catastrophic.
• If we succeed we can not forgive anything. It is wrong because: It causes a constant need to be on guard. Poorer relationships. It leads to frustration, self-punishment, to fear the views of others and blame. Provides mental rigidity, secrecy, immobility.
• We need to be loved and approved by the people around us. It is wrong because: It is an absolute target, a perfectionist and inaccessible. There will always be people incapable of love, for their shortcomings or our personal characteristics. Conditions our behavior to make love at any cost. It forces us to make us honey with all: overwhelming!
• We achieved all our goals to consider ourselves valuable. It is wrong because: secretes anxiety and stress in massive doses .. Being unattainable us frustrated, disappointed and bitter. It acts as a brake on the initiative, for fear of not giving the perfect size.
Alfonso Lopez Caballero on the subject brings, it is considered that every human being tends to repeat certain negative behavior, no matter how inappropriate or harmful that it is itself. Just indicated, the principal law derive some very dire. All this makes our life becomes complicated in excess.
• autolock Law: If faced with a problem obsessively think there is no solution for it, there will be none.
• Law on the wrong solution. As a general rule, before a personal problem prefer artificial solutions to the simple, external (coming from outside) to the inmates, the glad to expensive, the passive to active, to the nuclear periphery.
• Law of negativity unconscious coping with human problems often acts unconscious forces that work against that is a valid solution, not a pro.
• Law of irresponsibility. People develop a considerable tendency to think that our problems are unavoidable and caused by fate.
• Law of expertise. Everyone tends to specialize in a specific behavior that is harmful compulsive and irresistible in proportion to its absurdity.
Do not forget that our way is much too short and not even know exactly when we will leave, we leave this physical body, we must therefore use the time given to us, trying to interrelate, share, enjoy hassle-free.
Optimize our actions, properly handle our energy, so we can enjoy our lives, let us not be trapped by the illusions, all that emotional stimuli generated sabérsele not drive can complicate our lives and waste the time it has given us .
It is not surprising to read comments on that say: I suppose when things are going well, that’s what we want and what we like, we do not worry, however when we go wrong we suffer and how to solve it, that occupy most of our thoughts.
It’s OK to think things, to seek solutions and all that, but we can not make negative the center of our existence because we are, but many details and precious moments on the road without evaluating.
Some people said, the first thing is to believe in yourself, trust your own abilities and love, as much as a voucher. That will give you strength to face these unpleasant situations with some people and especially to reaffirm your personality, removing or changing those things that do not like about you and facilitate the relationship with people who really are worth it.
Rate good people and bad passes. As the saying goes: “Do not we realize what we have until we lose it,” so you try to polish these things in your character that you do not like and see what really is worth it and others will appreciate as you deserve.
Definitely one depends on how we manage in everything in which we interrelate, know, have clearly defined our weaknesses, strengths and surprise us in how we act. The important thing is let us not be trapped by the complication.
Admitting one's mistakes
Is it easy to admit their own faults?
A member of the Logistics Department who worked in shifts, due to a personal problem of his mother’s illness, asked to get a half hour late every day until the nurse who was caring for her mother every day came, and so granted.
However, instead of half an hour, he took around 45 minutes each day, that is, systematically began to arrive half an hour in addition to the negotiated ten to fifteen minutes late every day without warning or giving any explanation.
Your supervisor spoke with her to see if there was any problem, and ask them to advise if there was something unexpected, since she worked in shifts, and if their partners do the same the customer does not find anyone when requested.
However continued tardiness with the consequent disruption to their partners, almost daily. He moved this case to HR, where they decided to punish it.
When the penalty was told she did not deny the facts, however diminish what he was doing, saying they were important personal reasons, he had to care for her mother. He did not understand the gravity of his action, and considered the penalty excessive, but pledged to tell his boss that if something unexpected arises.
Do not be late again, but their relationship with the boss and other colleagues have deteriorated sharply.
Another person in the production department one day did not come to work for an entire day. The next day back at work as usual, without giving any explanation or justification. Supervisor spoke to him and told him he was not having a good personal time. Per month, this incident was repeated without notice, it was not working a full day without warning. Given the seriousness and recidivism, the HR Department decided to sanction him with the same punishment to his partner of Logistics.
It was explained that it is essential to tell your boss you have any problem. He admitted his mistake, he realized that he had not done well, and that it was inappropriate behavior. He explained that he was overwhelmed with the situation that was going through, but he understood that there was no justification to even notice. It was shameful to be punished. He pledged to never happen again.
Do not repeat this behavior again. The good relationship he had with his boss was not damaged by this incident.
QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION
Can you work with someone who is not accountable for their actions?
Would it be correct that the company reconsider the penalty depending on how the person reacts
What determines the response to each give a call for a foul our
CONCLUSIONS
If you’re not responsible, sanctions are useless, only to increase the degree of resentment in that person who feels unfairly treated.
The sanctions must always comply once informed. It will be the person to be responsible in the future not to go through this bad time.
The maturity and self-criticism are essential to do a good job, and want to do it excellently.
Fraternity
It never rains please everyone. Proverb.
We are beings who share this planet Earth as we are given the opportunity to stay in that time and we must not forget that we should cultivate brotherhood.
Pedro Aparicio, reminds us that: fraternity, is the indestructible bond that unites us with our fellows in our common interests, without involving any condition, is the expression of the soul, is the free expression of love toward our fellowmen. No matter that we have different faiths, different beliefs, different tastes and hobbies or social position.
Fraternity, coexistence is full of affection, even with people who have never seen before, and that together in that community of interests is the pursuit of our material and spiritual development, cooperating with us to achieve our ideals, spontaneously and free of prejudice.
Fraternity, is learning from our own nature, which leads us to know ourselves through the knowledge of our fellow men, is the camaraderie among us, to ourselves able to achieve our ideals, is the mastery that leads the paths of perfection through mutual learning. The fact that this shows that theoretically try to live and make the fraternity, although it is somewhat difficult in practice, given that there are differences of personalities and characters among human beings, so, it is sometimes difficult to feel the fraternity with some of our peers, perhaps because the man is either from a dual perspective has evolved upward from the lower realms of nature and from the other, is a divine spirit that lives in the animal body perishes and so if we were to examine and reflect on how we feel these antipathies, we will find that you are always related to the animal body with animal characteristics that have been passed up from the lower realms of nature, in the course of the contest and evolution of our bodies: Adding to all this besides the fact that we are divided according to our ideologies, customs, traditions, beliefs.
All of this brings us to the practice of brotherhood, we seek to recognize the spiritual individuality of our fellows, as is well known that it all started trying to find the highest of each individual to do my best and if there are difficulties with to the bottom of the individual, then every reason to leave this aspect aside for the moment. Precisely, it is here when we have the first lesson to be learned as is not to criticize anyone, criticize using the word in its ordinary sense and not in the true sense of Krin, which translates to judge, as is well known it is a habit that gets the lower mind which now dominates so much about us. We should instead, seek and discover the good and positive in others and so in proportion as we are able to develop spirituality in our inner realization, the easier to find the same spiritual life in others, the more we can see and carry through this reality, we will be more patient and tolerant of the limitations of our fellow men, which seems to be prefer to stay in the stadium.
From the above can be corroborated, that is very true the thoughts that have been said about the man in his quest for brotherhood, which in any rational human being, there is an imbalance between his brain and his heart, because when one bat with great delight their light wings to detach from the material world and swim in the crystal clear waves of truth and universal brotherhood, the other is unable to attend.
It could then believe that the man would be called to be a semi-God for the fumes that arise from your brain and only a weak mortal by those born in his heart, and one might think that the intellectual man, goes to heaven search for laws of their creator and that is down to the moral man proclaiming brotherhood and is unable to understand and submit to the divine laws and human-less tight. From here, that those who remain in a spiritual line, do not follow their way, with the desolate heart of love, brotherhood and charity, leaving behind such beautiful principles and valleys, where the echo of the fraternity, but not responding the deep silence of selfishness or indifference or to the hollow sound of lies destructive criticism, ego, vanity.
We know that the fraternity in any activity which we live, especially in the field of teaching and even more if we identify with any philosophy or belong to an Order, not given by simple external contact, but stronger ties or indestructible true spiritual communion, through coordination of our deep inner realizations, which is only achieved in those environments regular, fair and perfect.
It would be interesting to reflect a little we should be actors of change in the division that arises in our way of how we interrelate, seeking or better look at the human race, be vigilant about the development of countries and societies in which soil live, preserving the best ties of brotherhood that we determine without distinction of race, creed, sex, nationality, ie equal before the law of God and the men themselves.
Up to you in the case of Venezuela where the union has been lost, where the fraternity has almost disappeared, recover, make it a reality for the good of all who live in the country.
Interpersonal conflict and its impact on business
The human interaction of a company is what makes the difference in the type of service or care provided to clients.
Although it is increasingly evident the effort to hire competent people to make companies more efficient, the characteristics of individuals may make this task very difficult.
The previously expressed concerns the issue of reconciling relationships among the laboring.
At first sight it is unimportant and trivial that the receptionist does not sympathize with the secretary of the boss, the boss does not sympathize with the head of another area or a manager of accounting bother him having to deal with another person’s computer science department .
These are just examples of enadecuadas interpersonal relationships that occur within a company but added and appreciated from a different point of view can lead to consequences for the functioning of any organization.
The above examples refer to the phenomenon of emotional conflict, this is derived from the inappropriate attitudes and emotions in interpersonal relations workers.
There are many factors that cause or are involved in this situation, sometimes prejudice, individual difference or the perception one has of the other person may be the cause of interpersonal relations are not harmonious.
Many other competition, rivalry for promotion opportunities or the need for status can also lead to this negative result.
Regardless of the cause that generates the conflict the biggest losers when it is presented are the other laboring.
The client or user can be harmed when personal fictions become sabotage of one worker to another and therefore also sabotage the company.
In a broader context where such phenomenon occurs at any level, the company is affected. This is reflected in the deterioration of the quality of its products, the more working errors material loss.
You can also find bad customer service discussions or fights in the worst cases. Interpersonal conflict tends to manifest with different characteristics when it comes to sector management.
Here is the result of the conflict can affect the quality of decisions and the agility of the management of those involved in it.
You can also occur if the internal policy of transforming the company in terms of gaining mastery and control over the actions of another person in conflict.
Also mentioned culquiera pictures can give the same pattern to be intensified and transformed into intergroup conflict if not properly managed.
In this context it is important to the daily operation that a good manager assigned to the situation of latent conflict detection and resolution of conflicts present.
Ta line adeca ideas must be supported by those in charge of Labor Relations. Looking to pay attention not only to resolving the conflict itself but also to create conditions so that it does not recur.
Fortunately there are a number of tools for resolving conflicts that might present.
Also there are various conceptual approaches that encompass a great look for alternatives, Counseling, Advocacy processes, disciplinary issues, job rotation, training in communication, negotiation etc.
However any of these should be handled by professionals who are knowledgeable about intrapersonal and interpersonal processes that create such situations.
For those who are more correctly defined as or are the most viable strategies for resolving the conflict.
For companies overcoming interpersonal conflict or absence determines an important factor of development that undoubtedly reflected in the work environment and especially on their productivity.
Defects seekers
All we want to love and be loved. However, when we have had negative experiences, we can become sensitized, and consider as adequate to evade, take too many precautions, or not to try to love. However, life goes on and opportunities to bond with new people, seems, sometimes, just around the corner. Read on.
It’s no secret that consciousness is one of the major powers with which we humans, it allows us to realize our thoughts, emotions, actions and even certain possible consequences of our actions. This means that when we do not measure the consequences of our actions, we are working from the unconscious, governed by habits and prejudices, and generating, without being aware of it, uncomfortable and unpleasant situations.
One of the automated actions that arise in the context of relationships, is the habit of looking for faults, and frequent harmful habit that prompts us to perceive and communicate mainly what we dislike, ignoring or undervaluing the stimuli that are rewarding and favorable.
This, of course, internal and external consequences: the inmates are likely to live with emotional distress, decreased happiness, difficulty relaxing, and the establishment of negative habits of observation, the external conflict and increasing trend of rejection by the people involved.
The causes of this behavior may be biological, psychological and cultural. Biologically, the brain may be due to limiting configurations such as the so-called “Asperger Syndrome”, which creates disorder and other symptoms of attachment difficulties, little touch and low empathy.
Psychologically, early trauma on the links with parents, as expressed in the theories as “Attachment Theory and the Theory of Link” Bowlby, or trends as expressed by Adler in his theories (the bottom organ, and the pursuit of perfection), predispose people to fear being rejected, to overcompensate that fear and thus to reject others and see their faults. Something like “I reject you first, before being rejected by you.” Some attitudes associated with this mindset are: insecurity, jealousy and envy.
Culturally, we learn by imitation, reason for living with people (parents, friends, etc..) Which act as engines of defects, can lead us to learn that style and see it as something “normal.”
The problem then is the commitment of energy and time to criticize, to identify anything objectionable in others, to find you a way to compensate for subtle or hidden negative self-image and feel superior. It’s a mental game of self-which deceptively say: “I’m fine and they wrong.” As noted by Eckhart Tolle: “is your ego against the world.” They are, in short, disturbing close to the pathology that did not remedy their own mistakes and overcome their shortcomings, but live out in the direction of people’s lives. For them, success is anyone suspicious, ignorant, funny or ridiculous. Thus, unconsciously reduce the guilt they experience for their self-neglect and poor achievement. His specialty is to make others feel guilty, incomplete or unsuitable, since it allowed the rest of the people or their merits or their right to be different.
How to recognize them? They can often appear to face mocking, bitter or overly friendly, with a tendency sarcastic, lazy and reckless conduct and a clear desire destroyer think when they have not been consulted and are fond of hurtful and derogatory phrases: “How fat you are,” “and you are not you married?”, “I thought you had already graduated, I did not know you were so troubled,” “Do you still live there?”, etc.
If you want to improve our lives and leave behind this pernicious scheme is necessary to stop telling people what they “do evil” (especially if they have not asked for our opinion.) Let us focus on improving ourselves and lead by example. And if we are to refer to something that is preferably as positive, worthwhile, as it teaches behavioral psychology “awarded all behavior tends to repeat” Live and let live. Do not disguise our desire to control others with the “mask” to help sincere, nor conceal the phrase “I do it for your own good.”
No means no one can speak of any errors or defects, or to refuse the opportunity of a moderate and well-intentioned criticism. It is, yes, it does not become a habit or excuse for hurting you or we like.
And if you ever wondered what to do against defects seekers, the answer is: Acknowledge their qualities, politely suggest they see a positive side too, Claim assertively to change that trend, or simply stay away from them if that were possible. Thanks for reading.
