The International Index of Happiness or Happy Planet Index, reflects the appreciation of being on the planet and at the same time, it exposes a curious paradox: that the happiest countries are not necessarily the richest.

Argentina, despite the crisis, and mosquito bites, is not as bad as many believe. It ranks 47th in the ranking of happiness in the world, above countries like Switzerland or idealized United States.

It appears that happiness does not cost us as much as we thought. At the top of the list are the islands of Vanuatu (Pacific), followed closely by Colombia and then Costa Rica, while the United States appears far away in the place 150 on a total of 178 and the Swiss are at 65.

The index measures the perception of welfare, both social and individual, associated with eco-efficiency and life expectancy in each country. While it is the exact levels of happiness, it does show the degree to which each country approaches a basic set of requirements that people need to be happy.

According to Ignacio Trujillo, a writer specializing in issues related to the way we live and interact, the Argentines have learned to be happy by dint of suffering. “They can come play yard, global financial crisis, corrupt politicians, etc., but we seem increasingly determined to give priority to enjoy the small pleasures of everyday life.”

Can you learn to be happy?

“All we asked ourselves whether we are happy to remain as we are, whether we like the work we do if our relationship is full, if the person is what we imagined when we were teenagers. The race begins with happiness and life is endless, from children we do everything possible to be loved by mom and dad, teen invent anything to be accepted by our group membership, when we know the first love, we try keep regardless … But as we become adults, the sense of wonder begins to threaten and, if we are not careful with it also jeopardized the passion and the ability to play and enjoy them, “says Trujillo.

But how do those who are connected with great optimism, with the desire to grow and learn and the passion for living? “What they all have in common is a positive attitude,” says Trujillo, “there is no formula, a spa, which all attend, a position kamasutra, or a favorable economic situation for all of them, there is nothing outside it resolved . “

According to the specialist, a good way to change attitudes is watching people react to the same event differently from ours, which is not the only or the true and, therefore, possible to modify.

For months we have been hearing about the crisis and is a good opportunity to take what happens outside as a reflection of what happens to us individually: when we can take the crisis (internal or external) as opportunities rather than threats, we will have greater likely to grow.

Here are some ideas to learn to make seemingly difficult external stimuli and challenges to be better:

1) Change in attitude. A good way is to look to different people who take the same act in a manner opposite or other than their own (which is not the only or the true and therefore, possible to modify).

2) S.O.S. Have the courage and humility to ask for help when there is a way different vision. Until you can be encouraged to see the crisis differently, the conclusions will always be the same, to see with new eyes is necessary to ask for help from those who have the ability to provide it.

3) Practice, practice, practice. To grow with the crisis (both external and internal) need to practice new attitudes held in time. A good way to start is to practice these ideas for at least six months.

4) Find examples. There are always people around us who already encouraged to take the step that costs us much concrete. They can inspire us, just a matter of starting to look around.

5) Laughing at yourself. Must be encouraged to set aside the ego that always complains and feels offended and start to laugh at one’s own stupidity.

6) Do not expect magic formulas from the outside. We must make the following reflection: “What is my share of responsibility for having got here?”. If I am not responsible for my actions I can never leave my personal crisis as only we can change that of which we take.

7) Search rewarding contexts. To leave an area of crisis, must begin by the external environment. What characterizes a context? The physical environment, conversations, contact with nature, among other things. If the contexts in which they live are not the ones I like what I hope to create new ones?.

Connect with your feelings. Both sports activities such as arts connect us with the world of sensations. And when we’re on the senses, we are no longer in the head (which is what keeps us in crisis).

9) to act now. This involves deciding today with concrete actions I will start a growth path. As Goethe said: ‘Whatever you can do or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic. Begin it now. “

10) Read this article and break it! If after reading these ideas, are cut and pasted into the refrigerator, the most important thing is missing: pleasure to do. All this is to keep this in mind, then it’s like to go dancing: to enjoy dancing regardless of counting steps but enjoy.

Among the many benefits of psychotherapy and the practice of Kundalini Yoga is give us remove the possibility of getting sick as we grow in key areas such as: Talking about your emotions, make decisions, find solutions, not live appearances, accepted , trust and live in bliss.

Currently the chaos, confusion and the threat reign. And every day becomes more essential to consciousness primarily to not get sick …. Find out here as.

I) talk about your feelings

Emotions and feelings that are hidden and suppressed end in illnesses as: gastritis, ulcer, lumbar pains in the spine.

Over time, the repression of the feelings degenerates to the cancer. So let’s get honest, confiding, sharing our intimacy, ours “secret”, our errors! … The dialogue, the speech, the word, are powerful remedies and an excellent therapy! Psychotherapy reiterates this over and over again in my course even I AutoCorrect format conducive face all the time about what has to be spoken, shouted that has to be shouted, mourn what you have to be crying.

II) Making Decisions

The undecided person remains in doubt, in anxiety, in anguish. Indecision accumulates problems, worries and aggressions. Human history is made of decisions. To decide is precisely to know to renounce, to know to lose advantages and values to win others. The undecided people are victims of nervous ailments, gastric and skin problems. Psychotherapy and Yoga mainly help us greatly to this by the great clarity of awareness they bring to our lives.

III) Search Solutions

Negative people do not get solutions and they enlarge problems. They prefer to complain, gossip, pessimism. Better to light a match to regret the darkness. A bee is small, but produces the sweetest thing there is. We are what we think. The negative thought generates negative energy that is transformed into illness. The more you practice Kundalini Yoga more negative balances your mind to make way for the mind balanced and wise.

IV) No Appearance Vivas

Who hides reality, pretends, is in pose, always wants to give the impression of being well, perfect show, good-natured, and so on. … Collects tons. A bronze statue with feet of clay. Nothing worse health than to live on appearances and facades. They are people with a lot of varnish and little root. Their destiny is the pharmacy, the hospital, the pain. In this Yoga there is no regular practitioners of this discipline we live in the Truth of our best I that is simple and humble.

V) Accept yourself

THE REJECTION of self, lack of self esteem, makes us alienate ourselves. Being yourself is the core of a healthy lifestyle. Those who do not accept themselves, become envious, jealous, imitators, competitive, destructive. OK, OK, be accepted and accept criticism is wisdom, good sense and therapy. When you play a wonderful source of light within each of us is impossible not to accept you and this, believe me! you do it with the constant practice of this wonderful discipline: Kundalini Yoga.

VI) Trust

Who do not trust, does not communicate, does not open, not related, does not create deep and stable relations, does not know to do true friendships. Without trust, no relationship. Distrust is a lack of faith in himself, others and God. Kundalini Yoga The increasingly open your consciousness to the great love that exists in all this way we become confident and wise.

VII) lives in that

The good humor, laughter, rest, joy, replenish health and bring long life. The happy person has the gift to brighten up the living environment. “Good humor saves us from the hands of the doctor.” Happiness is health and therapy. And finally to be in the Spirit, giving you the practice of Kundalini Yoga, leads us to happiness to be fine because if it be OK just because.

To be happy do not look for justification or permission.

We are constantly with many people who complain have complicated his life, who can not stand this situation, how to get out of it.

How also should not surprise us, that maybe ourselves for not being alert, awake, clearly defined what we want to achieve, in addition to self-knowledge, we find ourselves in situations where we believe we are complicated.

The fact that our journey through this plan with this form that lasts as long as we are with life is too short to complicárnoslas, enjoy it intensely.

There are precedents that point:

• 40 percent of concerns are things that never happen, devised by anxiety. Added to this is also that 30 percent is produced decisions, which can not be modified. What was done was done, we must deal with its results.

• A 12 percent have to do with criticism and comments. We must not let it catch you must handle it with ease, without letting the emotions complicated.

• A 10 percent are health concerns and mood they tend become worse with worry.

• The remaining 8 percent has to do with real problems to face.

To this must be added other aspects deserve consideration in relation to certain truths lying entangled us life, as we remember them practical psychology to know:

• What things do not go as I wish for is catastrophic. It is unwise because it creates thoughts like, “This is hopeless or I suck. We produce distress and anxiety, lowers self-esteem. Results in failure to address a difficulty with objectivity and a guarantee of success: the feeling from seeing the real catastrophic.

• If we succeed we can not forgive anything. It is wrong because: It causes a constant need to be on guard. Poorer relationships. It leads to frustration, self-punishment, to fear the views of others and blame. Provides mental rigidity, secrecy, immobility.

• We need to be loved and approved by the people around us. It is wrong because: It is an absolute target, a perfectionist and inaccessible. There will always be people incapable of love, for their shortcomings or our personal characteristics. Conditions our behavior to make love at any cost. It forces us to make us honey with all: overwhelming!

• We achieved all our goals to consider ourselves valuable. It is wrong because: secretes anxiety and stress in massive doses .. Being unattainable us frustrated, disappointed and bitter. It acts as a brake on the initiative, for fear of not giving the perfect size.

Alfonso Lopez Caballero on the subject brings, it is considered that every human being tends to repeat certain negative behavior, no matter how inappropriate or harmful that it is itself. Just indicated, the principal law derive some very dire. All this makes our life becomes complicated in excess.

• autolock Law: If faced with a problem obsessively think there is no solution for it, there will be none.

• Law on the wrong solution. As a general rule, before a personal problem prefer artificial solutions to the simple, external (coming from outside) to the inmates, the glad to expensive, the passive to active, to the nuclear periphery.

• Law of negativity unconscious coping with human problems often acts unconscious forces that work against that is a valid solution, not a pro.

• Law of irresponsibility. People develop a considerable tendency to think that our problems are unavoidable and caused by fate.

• Law of expertise. Everyone tends to specialize in a specific behavior that is harmful compulsive and irresistible in proportion to its absurdity.

Do not forget that our way is much too short and not even know exactly when we will leave, we leave this physical body, we must therefore use the time given to us, trying to interrelate, share, enjoy hassle-free.

Optimize our actions, properly handle our energy, so we can enjoy our lives, let us not be trapped by the illusions, all that emotional stimuli generated sabérsele not drive can complicate our lives and waste the time it has given us .

It is not surprising to read comments on that say: I suppose when things are going well, that’s what we want and what we like, we do not worry, however when we go wrong we suffer and how to solve it, that occupy most of our thoughts.

It’s OK to think things, to seek solutions and all that, but we can not make negative the center of our existence because we are, but many details and precious moments on the road without evaluating.

Some people said, the first thing is to believe in yourself, trust your own abilities and love, as much as a voucher. That will give you strength to face these unpleasant situations with some people and especially to reaffirm your personality, removing or changing those things that do not like about you and facilitate the relationship with people who really are worth it.

Rate good people and bad passes. As the saying goes: “Do not we realize what we have until we lose it,” so you try to polish these things in your character that you do not like and see what really is worth it and others will appreciate as you deserve.

Definitely one depends on how we manage in everything in which we interrelate, know, have clearly defined our weaknesses, strengths and surprise us in how we act. The important thing is let us not be trapped by the complication.

It never rains please everyone. Proverb.

We are beings who share this planet Earth as we are given the opportunity to stay in that time and we must not forget that we should cultivate brotherhood.

Pedro Aparicio, reminds us that: fraternity, is the indestructible bond that unites us with our fellows in our common interests, without involving any condition, is the expression of the soul, is the free expression of love toward our fellowmen. No matter that we have different faiths, different beliefs, different tastes and hobbies or social position.

Fraternity, coexistence is full of affection, even with people who have never seen before, and that together in that community of interests is the pursuit of our material and spiritual development, cooperating with us to achieve our ideals, spontaneously and free of prejudice.

Fraternity, is learning from our own nature, which leads us to know ourselves through the knowledge of our fellow men, is the camaraderie among us, to ourselves able to achieve our ideals, is the mastery that leads the paths of perfection through mutual learning. The fact that this shows that theoretically try to live and make the fraternity, although it is somewhat difficult in practice, given that there are differences of personalities and characters among human beings, so, it is sometimes difficult to feel the fraternity with some of our peers, perhaps because the man is either from a dual perspective has evolved upward from the lower realms of nature and from the other, is a divine spirit that lives in the animal body perishes and so if we were to examine and reflect on how we feel these antipathies, we will find that you are always related to the animal body with animal characteristics that have been passed up from the lower realms of nature, in the course of the contest and evolution of our bodies: Adding to all this besides the fact that we are divided according to our ideologies, customs, traditions, beliefs.

All of this brings us to the practice of brotherhood, we seek to recognize the spiritual individuality of our fellows, as is well known that it all started trying to find the highest of each individual to do my best and if there are difficulties with to the bottom of the individual, then every reason to leave this aspect aside for the moment. Precisely, it is here when we have the first lesson to be learned as is not to criticize anyone, criticize using the word in its ordinary sense and not in the true sense of Krin, which translates to judge, as is well known it is a habit that gets the lower mind which now dominates so much about us. We should instead, seek and discover the good and positive in others and so in proportion as we are able to develop spirituality in our inner realization, the easier to find the same spiritual life in others, the more we can see and carry through this reality, we will be more patient and tolerant of the limitations of our fellow men, which seems to be prefer to stay in the stadium.

From the above can be corroborated, that is very true the thoughts that have been said about the man in his quest for brotherhood, which in any rational human being, there is an imbalance between his brain and his heart, because when one bat with great delight their light wings to detach from the material world and swim in the crystal clear waves of truth and universal brotherhood, the other is unable to attend.

It could then believe that the man would be called to be a semi-God for the fumes that arise from your brain and only a weak mortal by those born in his heart, and one might think that the intellectual man, goes to heaven search for laws of their creator and that is down to the moral man proclaiming brotherhood and is unable to understand and submit to the divine laws and human-less tight. From here, that those who remain in a spiritual line, do not follow their way, with the desolate heart of love, brotherhood and charity, leaving behind such beautiful principles and valleys, where the echo of the fraternity, but not responding the deep silence of selfishness or indifference or to the hollow sound of lies destructive criticism, ego, vanity.

We know that the fraternity in any activity which we live, especially in the field of teaching and even more if we identify with any philosophy or belong to an Order, not given by simple external contact, but stronger ties or indestructible true spiritual communion, through coordination of our deep inner realizations, which is only achieved in those environments regular, fair and perfect.

It would be interesting to reflect a little we should be actors of change in the division that arises in our way of how we interrelate, seeking or better look at the human race, be vigilant about the development of countries and societies in which soil live, preserving the best ties of brotherhood that we determine without distinction of race, creed, sex, nationality, ie equal before the law of God and the men themselves.

Up to you in the case of Venezuela where the union has been lost, where the fraternity has almost disappeared, recover, make it a reality for the good of all who live in the country.

All we want to love and be loved. However, when we have had negative experiences, we can become sensitized, and consider as adequate to evade, take too many precautions, or not to try to love. However, life goes on and opportunities to bond with new people, seems, sometimes, just around the corner. Read on.

It’s no secret that consciousness is one of the major powers with which we humans, it allows us to realize our thoughts, emotions, actions and even certain possible consequences of our actions. This means that when we do not measure the consequences of our actions, we are working from the unconscious, governed by habits and prejudices, and generating, without being aware of it, uncomfortable and unpleasant situations.

One of the automated actions that arise in the context of relationships, is the habit of looking for faults, and frequent harmful habit that prompts us to perceive and communicate mainly what we dislike, ignoring or undervaluing the stimuli that are rewarding and favorable.

This, of course, internal and external consequences: the inmates are likely to live with emotional distress, decreased happiness, difficulty relaxing, and the establishment of negative habits of observation, the external conflict and increasing trend of rejection by the people involved.

The causes of this behavior may be biological, psychological and cultural. Biologically, the brain may be due to limiting configurations such as the so-called “Asperger Syndrome”, which creates disorder and other symptoms of attachment difficulties, little touch and low empathy.

Psychologically, early trauma on the links with parents, as expressed in the theories as “Attachment Theory and the Theory of Link” Bowlby, or trends as expressed by Adler in his theories (the bottom organ, and the pursuit of perfection), predispose people to fear being rejected, to overcompensate that fear and thus to reject others and see their faults. Something like “I reject you first, before being rejected by you.” Some attitudes associated with this mindset are: insecurity, jealousy and envy.

Culturally, we learn by imitation, reason for living with people (parents, friends, etc..) Which act as engines of defects, can lead us to learn that style and see it as something “normal.”

The problem then is the commitment of energy and time to criticize, to identify anything objectionable in others, to find you a way to compensate for subtle or hidden negative self-image and feel superior. It’s a mental game of self-which deceptively say: “I’m fine and they wrong.” As noted by Eckhart Tolle: “is your ego against the world.” They are, in short, disturbing close to the pathology that did not remedy their own mistakes and overcome their shortcomings, but live out in the direction of people’s lives. For them, success is anyone suspicious, ignorant, funny or ridiculous. Thus, unconsciously reduce the guilt they experience for their self-neglect and poor achievement. His specialty is to make others feel guilty, incomplete or unsuitable, since it allowed the rest of the people or their merits or their right to be different.

How to recognize them? They can often appear to face mocking, bitter or overly friendly, with a tendency sarcastic, lazy and reckless conduct and a clear desire destroyer think when they have not been consulted and are fond of hurtful and derogatory phrases: “How fat you are,” “and you are not you married?”, “I thought you had already graduated, I did not know you were so troubled,” “Do you still live there?”, etc.

If you want to improve our lives and leave behind this pernicious scheme is necessary to stop telling people what they “do evil” (especially if they have not asked for our opinion.) Let us focus on improving ourselves and lead by example. And if we are to refer to something that is preferably as positive, worthwhile, as it teaches behavioral psychology “awarded all behavior tends to repeat” Live and let live. Do not disguise our desire to control others with the “mask” to help sincere, nor conceal the phrase “I do it for your own good.”

No means no one can speak of any errors or defects, or to refuse the opportunity of a moderate and well-intentioned criticism. It is, yes, it does not become a habit or excuse for hurting you or we like.

And if you ever wondered what to do against defects seekers, the answer is: Acknowledge their qualities, politely suggest they see a positive side too, Claim assertively to change that trend, or simply stay away from them if that were possible. Thanks for reading.

If you happen to have a lot of dreams to fulfill that fail to materialize because the world economy is bad, because you have no financial resources, debt, lack of time, social situation of your country, etc … This article is for you.

Find in this article how to get successful despite the external circumstances will not be with you.

Transform in the designer and architect of your reality: There are times when it seems that the universe conspires so that the circumstances do not allow you to consummate your dreams. What if you try to change or soften the circumstances that you are blocking the way?.

Start living as if you were already on the path to your goals, so when you realize you’re on the road to your success.

If you go down a path and you find a big rock in the way, one of two or remove the stone in the middle or the edges, imagine that the circumstances are unfavorable stone. In any event you should never give up, because that is the path of failure.

Also as I have said, a circumstance not favorable deal can be a disguise.

Persistence: I once read a sentence of Miguel de Unamuno said that “once in order to give the nail should be given a hundred times in the shoe.” It is insisting, insisting … .. tirelessly.

With the persistence eliminate the effects of the lack of other skills or circumstances.

There is no need to make great efforts, a little bit every day, and without realizing you’re reaching your goals.

Do not make excuses: Many times we get excuses, excuses can mean two things:

1) You really really do not want it you think you want. Perhaps that goal is just something imposed by family or society and came to believe that you love. If so you should rethink your goals,

2) To be afraid to make decisions, have an unconscious fear of success because you think you do not deserve. The excuses are varied as overwork, husband, children (unless children are tiny, which is only a matter of waiting to
grow).

These are all excuses that you put on yourself. Remember the article on how to reconcile family and professional life, the family has to work are not a superwoman, talk to them.

Economic Issues (They have to find ways to finance the project) or start with a project that is not just costs, is concerned to find ways to do with the circumstance that prevents this.

Almost always outweigh the limitations that you put in your mind, as real can usually be managed.

Keep in mind these three things that I have mentioned, and you’ll see as though the circumstances do not accompany you, you can be successful, eliminating those circumstances or profit gaining them.

The current psychology knows predominant emotions in human behavior, disciplined practice of Kundalini Yoga brings us to the proper handling emotional mind today called Emotional Intelligence.

Has recently been discovered in the world of scientific psychology that emotions play a role in human behavior, they determine much of who we are and much of what we do and how we do it. Kundalini Yoga is a deep and effective way to reach what is called Emotional Intelligence term created by author Daniel Goleman, known here as.

Emotions:

The word emotion comes from Greco-Latin roots: e = go movere = made, or “go to” yes, emotions lead us to act a certain way, think, when you’re angry when you act like you when you are sad or happy?. That is why today they are given such importance.

The help of Kundalini Yoga:

This yoga works deep in the brain and throughout our nervous system through very powerful tools, these tools foster welfare states, peace, relaxation, sensitivity, intelligence and creativity.

In my case if I am depressed, tired, in a word undergoing a range of emotions of so-called negative energy, what I do is make me aware that I am breathing nostril and nostril consciously change if the state persists prefer make a stop on what you are doing and make a brief session of pranayama (number of breaths), it persists the state, which never happened, but can happen, then I would suffice to make a 5-minute meditation. very powerful and would end the state.

Discipline:

The emotions of negative energy are those that are not conducive to my growth but I stopped eg pessimism, pity, envy, insecurity, shame, guilt, resentment, bitterness, etc., The Kundalini Yoga are handled through the disciplined practice , Yogi Bhajan (who brought this yoga to the West) as saying: “Without discipline, no gain … ..”.

How to do it:

I assure you that if you learn this yoga and daily practice, very quickly the pain will leave all your life is to practice one day if the other also. It starts slowly and guided by a teacher-adviser that is required is a real desire to eradicate the pain of negative emotions in our lives.

Many of your needs can be met through the practice of Kundalini Yoga as it has powerful tools to achieve such as Meditation, Mantras, Mudras, Numerology, postures, and many other tools.

Tell a need or a goal you want to achieve and very probably within the great resources the Kundalini Yoga is the tool you can find to satisfy, known here as.

The Tools:

The Kundalini Yoga includes a series of tools or resources that can lead to the fulfillment of many of your life goals and needs, such tools are:

Mantras (sounds of power) for example: Sat Nam Har, Wuaje Guru, etc.
Posture. For example, the Cobra pose, the position of the triangle, the position of goalkeeper and many more.

Meditations. To rejuvenate, to conquer a great force, to develop the intellect, to cultivate the mind wise, and many more.

Mudras (postures of the fingers) for example, Gian Mudra (thumb and forefinger together) that is to cultivate higher states of consciousness. And many more.

Kriyas (series of exercises with a given objective) For example: Kriyas to harmonize all the chakras, kriya to strengthen the whole body, Kriyas to detoxify the body, Kriya to restore the electromagnetic field and many more.

Pranayama (breathing). Long deep breath, breathing fire breathing barrel Breathing right nostril, breathing through the left nostril and many more.

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Akara Numerology Tanrika and developed based on your date of birth to determine such important issues as your strengths and weaknesses, the Mission of Life (and why you were born), the Way of Life (As accomplish the mission or purpose life), exercises and meditations of Kundalini Yoga specifically for you based on your date of birth and many more features.

Achievements:

For example if you tell me you would like to improve your economy Mantras are meditations to do, or also on the basis of your numerology based on your birth date can know what exercises and meditations of Kundalini Yoga can bring you do, or want to improve some aspects such as:

Health
Interpersonal Relations
Rejuvenation
Work or Profession
Creativity
Intelligence
Inner peace and wellbeing
Personal safety and many more features.

All you have to do is learn the meditations, mantras and exercises that take you to do which can be known through constant practice of Kundalini Yoga given by a teacher-adviser who you can also develop your Numerology based on your date of birth to show the path to follow to achieve this.

Practice Kundalini Yoga under the guidance and advice of a teacher and meets many of your needs.

“The complaint, that place is tempting ….”

While we walked – along with the coachee – a process of coaching, appears as a tacit or explicit “music” deafening of the complaint. The complaint closed mind and ears condemning a downtime.

Your entry into the process goes hand in hand to offer the other and himself a theory of what happens in the story accompanied by discomfort that drowns, attributing the origin of everything “absolutely foreign agent” but without power ( or will) be seen as part of the problem.

This occurs most frequently in the coaches beginners, those who are approaching for the first time coaching experience “that happens in the process” bringing his time (like all) a problem that hinders them, gives them discomfort and are failing to meet alone.

Even in the process and to the question – “What do you think you are contributing to the situation you’re told and so bad you have?” Does a great silence and the rhythm of conversation that had been holding stops.

The coachee is placed back into the previous space in which the question (unanswerable at the moment) bursts in the context that both had achieved.

In a way “comfortable in their discomfort” and installed in the complaint is not satisfied to leave it too: it has established a strong romance while ignorant of the consequences of that attitude in life.

Beyond the theoretical explanations you can give to the matter, and vary according to the theory that the coach adheres, one must ask – as professionals, which we give treatment to the subject of the complaint.

What path to take in order not to a reactive to further strengthen this dogmatic truth that the person carries on social sites frequented

If the complaint becomes a daily practice, is fracturing – so quiet – the social ties that could provide a human network and to be useful for effective action, for example: collaboration, containment, support, business contacts, etc.

The complainant is losing over his life, ears, hands and eyes of his companions, friends and colleagues. Is gaining in return, loneliness, since the complaint

breaking the social bond. Specifically, it seduces: away.

Returning to the problem that we raised the complaint in the coaching process: what can we do with it?, What treatment could give him, beyond inquiring to induce doubt in relation to the position of victim? …

Let’s first look to the complaint, the coachee, within the coaching process:

Well, the same as looking out, add one more witness (the coach) to its “true victim.” Position that prevents it from being (we said) as part of the problem and work with yourself in what claims to be a major disturbance or problem.

In my opinion, should be removed from all semblance of drama and seriousness to the subject making it manifest in the form of questions. Ask for example, that results obtained in the interaction with people with whom he speaks from his “being a victim.”

In particular, as these people react after a time to hear the same thing over and over again.; You get him on that particular exchange in such cases and if you think you could talk about the exchange.

In general the person under these questions begin to be from another place and often the door appears: laughter. Is introduced in the comic dialogue.

When someone can laugh at himself, is able to step back and leave the scene where he was imprisoned without knowing it. Is this a good opportunity for the coach (if this happens) to continue to de-dramatize situations and humor that gives back to the coachee space, where the narrative of the experiences – relationships that have dissolved because of complaining behavior – takes place.

Moving along this line, then thoughts come more committed and then the context can be stained by the emotions of sadness that appear at the memory of rupture or obstruction of important links motivated by the repetition of speech complainant.

The coaching process then follows its course with varying degrees of success depending on the efficiency that have achieved both – coach and coachee – in the assembly of the star system.

But if laughter on the actual complaint has been achieved, the door will be open to further revisions and questions that do not end in this process. If establishing a practice, it is the acquisition of a strong future use.

Learn to laugh at yourself can be the beginning of real change.