This is retell story form Surviving Long-Term Unemployment :
When Sharon fired McRill, Michigan, from his comfortable job at a national chain of bookstores, thought she would never recover. “I spent the first three days curled up on the couch, in mourning for what I thought was the best opportunity of my life,” recalls Sharon.
In fact, experts say that apart from a death or divorce, job loss can be one of the most difficult situations to which an individual has to face. According to Robert London, MD, psychiatrist Langone Medical Center New York University: “It’s a very serious fracture in the vision we have of the world. Never mind that in the case of an executive or a bus driver, the fact is that our identity is closely related to our work. suddenly lose that identity can be devastating. ”
Therefore, it is absolutely normal to feel depressed in the first weeks after leaving to go to the job. However, when the unemployment situation is prolonged, and lasts, and do not see any work on the near horizon, which was a mere sadness can give way to severe depression. “It’s very easy to start believing that our doubts about ourselves have a real basis, things like I can not find work because I’m no good at all,” said Dr. London, who notes that even when we realize that we are depressed, signs such as sleeping, wanting to be alone or have unexplained physical aches and pains may be indicators of depression.
Of course, when we are totally depressed is difficult to send positive vibes (Hire me!) To the people around us, to say nothing of potential contractors. So it is so important to do everything possible to maintain a good psychological state as long as the unemployed.
“Not having a job can give us the feeling that we have no control, and take control of our lives is one of the factors that contribute to happiness and success,” says Paula Kliger, Ph.D., associate professor Wayne State University in Detroit, Michigan Executive Vice President Psychoanalytic Institute. She recommends regain control through a set agenda for weekdays. “Find work must be our work-recommended. Get up, take a shower and get dressed to go out. Keep a list flexible, but firm about what is going to do throughout the day. For example, search for contacts by internet from 9 to 10 am, going to see companies in people between 10 and 12, searching job databases from 2 to 4 pm, and so on. ”
If possible, think that this period is a time of opportunity and self-knowledge. Shortly after the thrown out of work, Sharon McRill stopped complaining and started to work: “The eight months I was without work, I began to make new contacts and think about what I was doing well. In the end, it was that mine was helping people with projects for your home. ”
Although eventually found work in another office, he soon realized that such “involuntary vacation” he had revealed his true vocation: to open a full-time service concierge services. Six years later, the company McRill, The Betty Brigade, has three offices in Michigan and is in full expansion. “My dismissal was the best thing that has happened in my life,” he says.
Do not you feel inspired to start their own business? “The best thing is to get a job soon, although not the ideal place, not within our area of expertise or experience and salary is not ideal,” says Dr. London. If it is innovative and hardworking, you will be surprised to discover how many you can go door opening. Moreover, the mere fact of having something to do every day does wonders for the mood. ”
That was the strategy of Sabrina Chapman. At the request of his patron, he moved to Manhattan from Columbus (Ohio), but five months after the leave of his lucrative post in the field of visual merchandising. “In less than a month I found an internship. They were not paid, but I knew it was important for me to leave the world every day. These practices enabled me to meet a key contact, who hired me for my first freelance project.” One project led to the next and only five months after losing his job, Chapman opened a public relations firm and organization of events.
If you can not find work, resist the temptation to make its nest at home and wait for the world that is knocking on your door. “Isolating is dangerous. When we live only in our minds, we never stop ruminating and feeding the depression,” says Dr. London.
Furthermore, “About 90% of jobs are obtained through informal relationships, not intimate with other people,” says executive adviser Ann Daly, Ph.D., author of Do-Over: How Women Are Re-Inventing Their Lives (A new opportunity: how women reinvent their lives). “The best thing is to engage in relationships because you never know if the person beside you can not help you find the perfect job.”
And if not, tell that to Dana Swanson. After her fired from his job of promoting radio, made several practices. In none achieved a firm job offer. So I used the plan B: “I learned to use Dreamweaver Adobe (ADBE – news – people) on my own, I created a web site to practice my skills and began to move all the connections and resources of social networks before it. ”
So I got a temporary post of manager in a business community dedicated to music for watersports, H2O Audio. “Today I have a fantastic job, less than two miles from home and over, I can see the ocean from my desk,” says Swanson, who is fond of surfing and former competitive swimmer. What I wanted was to regret not having lost the year that I did not work … And my efforts bore fruit. ”